Saturday, December 20, 2008

Bend it with marriage

We had few marriage invitations circulated in the last two weeks of November. There will be a good number of those coming in the month of February. While this will be the onset of a new beginning for the newly wed, it will be a upset for his single friend with whom he spent most of this time with. Once married, then starts the inevitable chapter in every man's life - bending.

The guy is pretty excited to start and experiment new things with his wife. He infact shows off that he was engaged for more than six months and teases his friends that they are not hooked up with any girl. As the D day nears by, he buys a Tv, fridge, double cot bed and a sofa to please the 'soon to become the Home Minister' wife. He splits from his bachelor friends and may even ignore the bachelors party citing that he doesn't have time and money to throw a party. But he has those two in abundance for shopping.


The guy takes a three leave from the work, finishes of the final round of shopping and sets off to his hometown for marriage. Pleasantries exchanged, all the arrangements made by the parents and may be even given a royal treatment by his in-laws. Amidst this chaos, he will forget the most important chapter bending he once was aware of. The confidence that life will be bed of roses with that new beginning would be gushing and everything else looks minuscule to the decorated wife at the occasion.

Event is over successfully. Both parties - all smiles. Gifts opened. (Non) Working wife takes a look around at her new house.

Day 1: Does not like too many people following her all the way from her husband's hometown to her new house where they would be residing for few days. Swallows it and doesn't express herself.

Day 2: Bottled up feelings emanate and vents her frustration over the people at her husband. Guy is both in love with mom and her wife. Can't choose a side.

Day 3: Doesn't talk well with his relatives and starts playing mind games with her in-laws. The guy invites his friends but she responds to them in a shocking manner saying, " You people don't get married so soon". A puzzled look by the guy at her wife but nothing more than that he can do.

Day4: Disconsolate guy's parents head home wishing him good luck. The guy remembers the forgotten chapter. Left are the newly wed bride and groom at the place to carry on the relationship for the rest of their lives. Begins to wonder if he is becoming a bunny.


He comes back from the office. She doesn't know cooking. Her mom never let her enter into the kitchen. No worries, I know cooking. She doesn't know how to wash clothes even with the aid of a washing machine. No worries, I can take care of it. (Guy begins to worry about her co-operation in the bed). She whines to her parents that she is all alone and home sick. Guy cannot find an answer to this. So takes her to movies in the weekend regularly to mitigate her loneliness. Saturday and Sunday is a strict no-no to cook in the house. What are outside restaurants for ?

After a month wife learns to cook. He will appreciate it but immediately recollects the delicious cooking done by his mom to which he used to find fault with, in his singlehood days. He starts to cook. Pays the bills. Takes care of her saree dry-cleaning. And feels freaking proud that his wife is the best when she doesn't berate him in an evening party.


The guy confirms the once heard chapter which he is experiencing now. Advices his friends to life to the fullest before marriage. He starts talking to his married friends only. Feels uncomfortable to share his feelings to his 'single' friends. A moment of hell is experienced when he cannot share with anyone what he feels in the aftermath of marriage.

The life cycle beings and he is lost in it totally. He eventually finds solace when his new born child holds his little finger after he returns from the office. That said, he realizes after few heavenly moments pre and post marriage, it will all be a one-way traffic.

PS: Title credit goes to my good friend. Story narrated is not really fictional.

2 comments:

DreamChasser said...

Exemplary narration!A scary eye-opener for most bachelor guys. I once visited a friend and his wife very politely told me never to step into their home again as a bachelor.Wife is the most complicated subject mankind has been unable to understand, till date.Well,everyone today knows that marriage is a bed of thorns with an occasional rose. I have heard stories of marriage and we can fill in the blogger database with those;its like a never ending tv-serial and it happens in every home.but having said that,marriage brings plethora of gains, along with the pains. We only highlight the sorrows!There are break-ups, patch-ups, everything!One buddy of mine gave a "rock" solid statement: The fun lies in breaking up and then making up. True to the core!So,lets respect Dr.Marriage and try to win over our partner. Isn’t easy, but Isn’t tough either!And last but never the least, Nag says: "thodu okarunte, jeevitham entho, vedukavuthundi pandu".

Rock said...

Thanks mate for the comment.

Yeah, there have been scary stories in the past. It is just that those stories have become a part and parcel of everyone's life now. Those stories aren't news anymore.

Surprising that she politely denied your re-appearance at her house. Tells you who is the Boss there.

There are few things which you get excited to venture and Marriage is one of those exciting things. But with these stories, one entirely changes his mindset to, 'edina ok, evarina ok' mode.

We respect Marriage and people very much believe in it. It is still such a solid foundation for relationships to sustain so good in India. But a wife who is atleast half good as anyone's mom will make everyman's life comfortable and pleasant.